Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with troubles, cause sadness, and other troubles. Plus you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, funds, age dissimilarity, faith background, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I should define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman date.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek affairs. I am conserned typically though it is only the human nature, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not injure your family or anybody else? You would need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest cluster, very big really. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sadly this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, generally the husband is sexually neglecting his woman for a large humber of reasons. As a man I really appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just grown distantly, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.